Eight Ways to Overcome Child (Toddler)

Children under the age of five are always acting up every time you take is traveling to visit new places and meet new people. If a visit to the homes of relatives or friends, let alone greet the host into the house just didn't want to. Situations like this make sure you're clueless as to face the little guy. Be calm, all problems have a solution, including how to deal with a shy child.



1. Don't force it
If your child doesn't want to be in a new environment or being pulled away, leave it alone. Give her spare time, don't be persuaded that constantly makes you frustrated to unwittingly take drastic steps instead force. Increasingly forced child will feel uncomfortable and acting. One thing you need to know about the shy child, they are the type of environmentalists. The way it reacts different to other children. you just need to let her study the situation in his own way. other than that let her decide when she is ready to join the crowd.

2. Often practice at home
Before facing an unfamiliar situation for the child outside the home, you should always practice at home. How, by providing clear information on the child before she get out. Example, before going to tell her, your goals and your family go, the reason you go there (see family / relatives, social gathering, birthday, to the playground). Don't forget, give an idea about where the child will meet with anyone. You may say, "Don't forget to say hello and greet later on aunt or uncle." That way your child can expect the situation to be faced.
3. Make eye contact
If it is in your child's point of still having trouble adapting and started acting up. Breathe deeply, not easy emotion for her actions. Situations like this are most easily make us angry. Actually, the best thing you can do is make eye contact with her. Give her a look and support, "It's all right, mom here." That way your child will realize that you were nearby so there was nothing to worry about it.

4. Give praise
Frequently - often give her praise when she does good things. For example, when he smiled at your friend. Or when children come into play with her nephew/cousin, Don't be stingy praise for every she always did the things other good. Your attitude will give positive encouragement to the child to frequently do so.

5. Make a play date
Make a play date with one of her school friends. This will help your child practice in socializing. Therefore, play only with one person makes it easier to cope with uncomfortable situations. However you need to note, do not push to make a play date with your entire class in turn. Enough with one or two people at most for a few months. Once children begin to enjoy playing with her friend, she will start playing with other colleagues in the school.

6. Don't be ashamed of her attitude
Often times when you are in the situation of children withdrawn and that you did apologize for her behavior. Stop this habit! It is precisely that which makes it unique character. Instead you focus on attitudes that make you shy shy, try thinking about the quality of your child. Properties which you boast, as well as good attitude remind to her, that she has a lot of greatness as an animal lover, love to help you in the kitchen, or pleasure reading.

7. Don't give her the label
When children hear you label her "shy" which unfortunately, often uttered with a tone and a bad impression. As a result, your child will be rampant nature and more difficult to be invited to socialize. She's even more often cranky mood whenever confronted with new people.

8. Frequently - often hug her
The most effective way for increasing confidence shy child is showered them with affection. Frequently hug them while experiencing uncomfortable situations. Show them that you are still dearest to them what it is.

Convince yourself that whatever happens,

You still love your child wholeheartedly and always be there for them

Developing Children

Where parents who didn't want their children to be intelligent?, But to achieve it is not a simple thing. Intelligence is not something that is given at birth but results from interaction between innate factors (aptitude and interest) and environmental factors.
In terms of environment, parents can not just shut down. Parents have an important role in selecting and limiting in educating their children to be a good boy and smart.

Actually, what is a smart kid?
Definition of a bright child is a child who is able to use all its capacity to learn and solve problems. So of these definitions can be noted that the smart kids not only represented by academic achievement alone but more broadly (beyond) than that.
Each person has the intelligence of children who differ in their capacity to learn. There was a child who since childhood has shown an interest to learn mathematics or language. There is also skilled in socializing, music, or dance. This is where the role of parents and the community (neighborhood) affect whether or not the optimal development of the child's intelligence. Environment that is needed is an environment that can provide facilities and incentives for children according to age.

When, how, and what to look for?
Need to know, that at the time of fetal age of 25 weeks (in the womb) has to interact, which is a change in heart rate and movement of the head when the fetus receives in the form of sound stimuli. And at the age of 32-33 weeks the fetus is able to distinguish between normal voice he heard an unfamiliar voice.
While research conducted by one researcher named Lafuente, in his book Bee and Boyd (2007) points out, if the fetus is 6 months old receive music stimuli within a certain time, motor and cognitive skills would be better than the other fetus does not receive musical stimuli .
Though still difficult to prove whether the acquired skills of a child after birth due to stimulation of music, experts believe that there is no harm in giving a musical stimulation in the fetus in a proper way.
Giving should be done wisely stimuli. Don't get too excited parents giving stimulation to forget the fetus needs to rest. Calm the fetus with a smooth sweep in the stomach as he twitched. And that is not less important is prenatal care, attention to nutrition and healthy life inwardly and outwardly..
After the child is born, the varied stimuli need to be provided. Adjust the child's age in order to optimize various aspects of development, ie physical, cognitive, and psychosocial.
Through several activities and with respect to some signs are required, parents can stimulate children to learn and develop various aspects of intrapersonal and interpersonal intelligence. Ranging from language learning, numeracy (math), design, drawing, body movement, music, and the introduction of knowledge about the natural surroundings.
The stimulation goal is to prepare children so that they can optimize all of the potential that exists within them. Keep in mind, don't let parents do this activity only for the purpose of having a smart kid. Do all of this with sincerity and patience. Every child has strengths and weaknesses in each aspect of intelligence. It does not mean when the child has a deficiency then left alone, still give stimulation well. The treatment is the main capital in fostering self-confidence and trust in their parents. Thus the child will have a strong feeling that he/she is precious in the sight of parents so that she still felt happy.
"Is not the source of happiness is inner spirit of a person?"

Establishment Of Child Characters From Childhood

Every parent would want their children to have a good personality and character.
Character is a word that has no meaning if it is not linked to human.
From the point of the process there are experts who say that the human characters are heredity, some others say the environment that shape the character of a person's personality. Do not blame or justify one of the above views. The above two factors certainly play an important role in the formation of a human personality traits. But the most important thing to note is that human habits every day that will shape the character of a person.

The following article will present some aspects of the human personality that need to be socialized from early childhood or school so as to form a strong personality and independent in the future.

1. Responsibility
Psychological aspect of this responsibility is the courage to accept the task, commitment to run, mental endurance during running, and openness to accept the consequences of positive and negative. Then a character called has responsibility means the person has a willingness to accept, is committed to this task through to completion and evaluating and receive both positive and negative results.
The responsibility of a child (learner) is receiving learning task. Once accepted this assignment he must commit to run to its conclusion at the end of the lesson. A student must accustom ourselves to always learn. Study abroad he is not to pass the exam, or that please parents and teachers, but he must learn to live. He had to build a habit responsible to execute any task given to him to completion and evaluated to see the results. Responsibility is an aspect of personality that needs to be established early on, ranging from the simple things that will be the foundation for greater things.
  
2. Self-Respect
Self-esteem may be seen by many people as being funny. Because the award is usually more associated with relationships with others is respect for others. Some even believe that the extreme self-esteem is a form of self-exaltation. Apart from the above assumption I would say that self-esteem is the basis for respect for others. How can you respect others if you did not respect yourself? Self-esteem is to think positive, be positive and accept themselves as they are. With positive thinking to yourself, people can discover the potential and talent in them. And by accepting the positive and negative things he had, then he felt secure with himself, and eventually he was able to perform with confidence. Self-esteem needs to be built since the age of school so it can be the basis for the progress of the tasks that will be entrusted to him.

3. Doing The Right Thing
 Doing the right thing is the personality aspects that need to be socialized from an early age. Good habits formed by practice. And practice doing good things can happen at school or at home. Exercise at home will be accompanied by a parent, while at school will be accompanied by teachers. Parents and teachers are present as a companion as well as a motivator so that the child will continue to eagerly do the good things. Exercise will be repeated at the same time form a habit in children, and then this habit will become part of the child's own personality. A student needs to get used to doing things that are considered good by the surrounding community, thus this habit will rotate automatically in every day lives.

4. Respecting Others
Every parent and teacher wants her kids have a habit of respect for others. This attitude is not only the expectations of parents and teachers but it is the hope of every person in society. While still living with his parents in the home, the child becomes a little king. All the demand is always met, all wishes are always granted. But after he entered the school, he will meet with a new challenge, namely his friends who also have the desire and will of its own. Here the children need to be accompanied to develop the appreciation of the others. He should also refrain, giving the opportunity to other friends, receive the opinions and wishes other friends, as well as the courage to accept defeat. Other attitudes that need to be developed to support this aspect is patience, accepting of others, listen to others, and recognize the advantages of others.


5. Preventing Conflicts & Violence
Conflict and violence is often synonymous with youth. Students who are part of the young people were often exposed to the negative opinions. Not without reason, the proven fact that a lot of fights between students (youth). This fact certainly gives us an indication that there is something wrong with the character of young people in our neighborhood. What is it? They are not provided with shared values ​​of life that should be accepted and respected together. In addition to economic pressures and challenges of metropolitan life are so high, causing them to lose grip of life and ultimately hard to control myself facing these conflicts. Preventing the efforts made ​​towards conflict and violence between students is to give a lot of homework load so he was busy and just thinking about the task of learning, or also by providing other skills courses according to the gifts and talents they have. In addition, children also need to be good at choosing activities that did not prone to conflict and violence.

6. Saying No to Alcohol and Other Drugs
Saying No to Alcohol and all types of drugs is the hope of all parents to their children. In fact not only the parents, but the school, and the community also strongly agree with the above commitments. Many parents are always anxious and closely monitor where their children so as not to get trapped into bad habits above. No. It's easy to say that we have never experienced the pleasure of booze and dope. But it is difficult when we are stuck in the habit of drinking and drugs. Many parents to sell all his possessions to his son recover drug addiction. Not only that, but the physical and psychological condition of the child is also very alarming. Then the children should be warned not to try drinking or taking drugs. Why need to say No to Alcohol and other Drugs? Because to avoid bad habits themselves from the trap that will lead to the destruction of a student's personality.

7. Speaking of Sex
Sex is the most interesting material to be discussed among adolescents ranging from elementary to high school level. Discussion of possible rating among teens, the topic is the most numerous and interesting discussion.
Sex education is necessary and important to note at the schools, because Sex has very large dimensions. The existence of many aspects and interests in the talks contaminated in sex itself. There are looked at in terms of business, there is a view in terms of satisfying needs, there is a view of the ethical-moral terms. Here it should be no sex education in all schools so that sex itself is placed right in place as God's creation, and discussed in accordance with the purpose of its creation. Sexual revolution and all dimensions have misled the youth and at the same time they plunged into a vicious cycle of mere gratification of lust. So since the beginning of the child need to be opened her eyes to see the sex business and not in terms of satisfying sexual desires but first as a God's glorious creation and used in accordance with the purpose of its creation.

Concluding:
Character is the face of a human personality. They consist of repetitive habits permanently at any time and place. These habits are did not formed one time so. Also not present at birth, but it is a habit that is formed from time to time. Positive habits should be trained repeatedly until later moved automatically. Experts say, 'First you have to be able to form a habit, then the habit will be formed thee.'
Let us establish positive habits of our children from an early age, so then it will automatically establish habits of our children.